一個(ge)(ge)做過廳級干部的(de)老大哥講提高一下后生對社會(hui)的(de)認知，做人的(de)三個(ge)(ge)維(wei)度，一生從政的(de)總(zong)結。
一、做(zuo)人(ren)一定要(yao)圓滑。你人(ren)緣不(bu)(bu)好，是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)因為你不(bu)(bu)會(hui)說話，你不(bu)(bu)懂得見人(ren)說人(ren)話，見鬼說鬼話，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)男人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意邏輯(ji)，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)情感(gan)，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)女人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意的(de)(de)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)感(gan)受(shou)，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)講(jiang)大道理，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)孩子溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意的(de)(de)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)鼓(gu)勵，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)說教，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)老(lao)人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意的(de)(de)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)尊(zun)重，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)說對與錯，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)窮人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意的(de)(de)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)利益，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)情感(gan)，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)有(you)(you)錢人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)要(yao)注意的(de)(de)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)品味，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)說夸他(ta)有(you)(you)錢，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)底層的(de)(de)人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)用客氣(qi)的(de)(de)語氣(qi)，少用命令的(de)(de)語氣(qi)，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)直(zhi)性子的(de)(de)人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)，千(qian)萬不(bu)(bu)要(yao)轉(zhuan)彎(wan)抹角(jiao)，要(yao)直(zhi)來直(zhi)去(qu)的(de)(de)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)他(ta)說，跟(gen)(gen)(gen)那種比你厲害(hai)的(de)(de)人(ren)溝(gou)通(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)(tong)，一定要(yao)憑實力去(qu)征服(fu)他(ta)，而(er)不(bu)(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)在那里去(qu)討好他(ta)。
二、要懂得換(huan)位思(si)(si)考。為(wei)什(shen)么你(ni)(ni)(ni)總(zong)是(shi)煩惱(nao)？因為(wei)你(ni)(ni)(ni)總(zong)是(shi)活在自己的(de)世(shi)界里，你(ni)(ni)(ni)的(de)所(suo)有(you)(you)痛苦怨恨和壓抑，歸根結底都(dou)是(shi)一件(jian)事導致的(de)，就是(shi)你(ni)(ni)(ni)不懂得換(huan)位思(si)(si)考，你(ni)(ni)(ni)開(kai)車的(de)時(shi)(shi)候(hou)討厭行人，你(ni)(ni)(ni)走路的(de)時(shi)(shi)候(hou)討厭車輛，你(ni)(ni)(ni)打(da)工時(shi)(shi)，覺(jue)得老(lao)(lao)板太(tai)(tai)摳門(men)，做老(lao)(lao)板以后，又覺(jue)得員工太(tai)(tai)沒有(you)(you)責(ze)任(ren)心，你(ni)(ni)(ni)當顧客時(shi)(shi)認為(wei)商家忽悠你(ni)(ni)(ni)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)當商家又認為(wei)顧客太(tai)(tai)難纏了(le)，一個(ge)人如果懂得換(huan)位思(si)(si)考，無論是(shi)社交工作還是(shi)創(chuang)業等，都(dou)會像開(kai)了(le)掛一樣，領悟許(xu)(xu)多并得到許(xu)(xu)多，而這取決于(yu)你(ni)(ni)(ni)內心里裝的(de)是(shi)什(shen)么。蘇東坡和佛印(yin)禪(chan)師的(de)對話故事說(shuo)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)看(kan)(kan)人像一坨(tuo)泥，你(ni)(ni)(ni)就是(shi)一坨(tuo)泥，你(ni)(ni)(ni)看(kan)(kan)人像一尊佛，那(nei)你(ni)(ni)(ni)就是(shi)一尊佛，一句話總(zong)結就是(shi)心存善念，必有(you)(you)善行，善念善行天(tian)必佑之。
三、讀懂社(she)會(hui)的(de)灰色，并遠離情緒不公平。如(ru)果因(yin)為不公平而憤怒，那(nei)是(shi)(shi)因(yin)為你一定不是(shi)(shi)利益的(de)獲(huo)得方，做個沒(mei)有(you)情緒的(de)人，別到處訴(su)苦，也不要(yao)(yao)輕易相信(xin)剛認(ren)識的(de)人，更(geng)不要(yao)(yao)對誰都(dou)充滿(man)期待(dai)，誰在背(bei)后議(yi)論自己都(dou)無所謂，你只需要(yao)(yao)關心你的(de)當下和未(wei)來，那(nei)些什么(me)雞毛蒜皮，那(nei)些糟心的(de)破人破事兒，別讓(rang)這些東西煩到你，你不需要(yao)(yao)人人都(dou)理解你，喜歡你，你也不要(yao)(yao)輕易給誰提意見，每一個人都(dou)是(shi)(shi)環(huan)境的(de)產物，道不同不相為謀。
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